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Lisa Kelly

Today I am asking you to do something: Reach out to a fellow blogger. Visit and leave a message of care, encouragement and appreciation for Lisa Kelly. (Tell her Janie sent you, if you wish.) She may not respond to your comment right away, or at all, depending upon how she feels and whether she is able to spend any time on the computer. But I urge you to take a few minutes out of your day to visit Clusterfook, read Lisa’s story, and then share your thoughts and feelings with her.

You’ll find that Lisa is a brave, witty, talented writer. In recognition of her talent, the Post of the Day Award was bestowed upon her by The Rising Blogger on August 27, 2008. Lisa has blogged the details about her three-time battle to survive ovarian cancer, providing her readers with information about her treatment and sharing her feelings. Recently, she delivered the most difficult news of all. Realizing that aggressive treatment of the cancer that metastasized in her lungs and liver was not working, she explained that she was awaiting delivery of a hospital bed in conjunction with entering hospice case. “I’ve come home to die,” she wrote. “I hope you can understand my decision to stop treatment but treatment is killing me.”

Last Saturday, she announced that she, along with her husband and a hospice social worker, informed her daughters, ages 8 and 11, that she is not going to get better.

How do you tell an 8 and 11 year old there’s a lesson to be learned when their mom dies?

Well, I’ve got them surrounded by great people and a good support system that I hope pulls through for them. That’s how you do it.

Spend some time at Clusterfook and consider the gift that Lisa has been to the blogosphere and the legacy she leaves for her two beautiful girls.

Then turn off the computer, spend some time with and hug the people in your life who matter most to you. By doing so, you will honor Lisa and the battle she has fought with grace and dignity. You will honor the family she will leave behind.

And you will honor your own loved ones in a tangible, personal way. Give thanks that you are capable of doing so. Make some memories.

Now go on . . . reach out.


5 Comments

  1. I know how difficult it is to tell a child that a parent is dying. I had to tell my son, who had just turned 11, that his Dad was dying and would not live to see his 12th birthday. My dying husband just couldn’t tell him. My heart goes out to all in this situation.

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  2. Child Care

    I just looked into clusterfook.com and read about Lisa Kelly. I told her Janie sent me.

  3. Dory Raymond

    This website has been easy to read & i am hoping it can perhaps be a venue for my thoughts/feelings during this difficult time while my mother is dying. she is a non-smoker that is dying from emphasema ~ never smoked a day in her life. she also has alzheimer’s disease (AD). either one of those diseases would be bad enough, but why God has chosen to give her both of them is just downright rude to me. my father’s demise wasn’t easy on my family either. he died of brain cancer. it came & went several times ~ it took about 10 years before it finally killed him. way back when daddy got sick there was a book out that was called “when bad things happen to good people”. well, so much for that. words from a book flow through ur mind & back out again when u see ur loved one suffering. all u want is for the suffering to stop. u pray for the pain to stop & ask god to give them peace & let them sleep & let them slip away in their slumber free of any pain. living four states away from my mother has not been an easy situation to accept; however, i am moderately disabled & unable to travel. so i must communicate via my pc with my cousin that keeps a bedside vigil w/my mother. all the ups & downs of her illness has put me into a downward spin of emotional unsteadiness ~ i am now plagued by terrible panic attacks at least two or three times a week. i need to connect w/someone, somewhere that i can share my feelings with because i was an only child that was adopted & am not close to the cousins on the other side of the family that live 4 states away.

    if i am in the wrong place, could someone please direct me to what would be a more appropriate place, if they know of one?

    thank u for your time & have a blessed day.

  4. will visit her blog definitely
    i always encourage people for what they are good at

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