Today I am asking you to do something: Reach out to a fellow blogger. Visit Clusterfook and leave a message of care, encouragement and appreciation for Lisa Kelly. (Tell her Janie sent you, if you wish.) She may not respond to your comment right away, or at all, depending upon how she feels and whether she is able to spend any time on the computer. But I urge you to take a few minutes out of your day to visit Clusterfook, read Lisa’s story, and then share your thoughts and feelings with her.
You’ll find that Lisa is a brave, witty, talented writer. In recognition of her talent, the Post of the Day Award was bestowed upon her by The Rising Blogger on August 27, 2008. Lisa has blogged the details about her three-time battle to survive ovarian cancer, providing her readers with information about her treatment and sharing her feelings. Recently, she delivered the most difficult news of all. Realizing that aggressive treatment of the cancer that metastasized in her lungs and liver was not working, she explained that she was awaiting delivery of a hospital bed in conjunction with entering hospice case. “I’ve come home to die,” she wrote. “I hope you can understand my decision to stop treatment but treatment is killing me.”
Last Saturday, she announced that she, along with her husband and a hospice social worker, informed her daughters, ages 8 and 11, that she is not going to get better.
How do you tell an 8 and 11 year old there’s a lesson to be learned when their mom dies?
Well, I’ve got them surrounded by great people and a good support system that I hope pulls through for them. That’s how you do it.
Spend some time at Clusterfook and consider the gift that Lisa has been to the blogosphere and the legacy she leaves for her two beautiful girls.
Then turn off the computer, spend some time with and hug the people in your life who matter most to you. By doing so, you will honor Lisa and the battle she has fought with grace and dignity. You will honor the family she will leave behind.
And you will honor your own loved ones in a tangible, personal way. Give thanks that you are capable of doing so. Make some memories.
Now go on . . . reach out.