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My pal Kailani at An Island Life hosts this great meme, Aloha Friday, based upon a very popular term used in Hawaii when island residents take it easy and look forward to the upcoming weekend – kind of like T.G.I.F. The meme involves no long posts, no deep soul searching revelations . . . just a little fun.

Each Friday, Kailani posts a simple question or topic of conversation. Visitors leave a comment on Kailani’s site and then post a question or short discussion topic on their own site. Participants visit each other’s sites and respond with a comment! Even if you do not post a question or topic on your site, you can still play by simply leaving a comment!

Here’s my question for this edition:

What is your reaction to the California Supreme Court’s ruling that restricting the right to enter into a legally binding marriage to members of the opposite sex is unconstitutional?

My answer:

I got my first wedding invitation from my favorite same-sex couple within about ten minutes of the decision’s publication. I was thrilled and excited.

Yesterday was a landmark day in the history of American jurisprudence and one of those gratifying moments when it felt like my 15 year involvement in the fight for civil rights is completely worth it. When I watched news broadcasts and saw so many happy couples reacting to the ruling, I couldn’t help but do a little dancing around my living room, too!

Last night we were listening to a talk radio show as we drove to my band concert. BigBob asked me a question that I found deceptively perceptive and quite profound. As he heard the hate speech blaring out of the car’s speakers from religious fanatics and homophobes who are determined to destroy this human rights victory with a constitutional amendment that reestablishes a discriminatory ban on , he turned to me and asked: “Why do they care? It has nothing to do with them and doesn’t harm them in any way, so why can’t they just leave the people who are impacted by the decision alone and let them live happily in peace?”

What do you think?


  1. That is a very heavy question. I feel as if I have been on another planet as I live in Callifornia and am completely unaware of this.

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    I think it’s great! I know many same-sex couples that have been together for many decades and they should have all the same advantages as opposite-sex married couples. For me it boils down to these issues:
    1) Inheriting property smoothly from your spouse
    2) Not being locked out of your spouse’s hospital room because of your gender
    3) Child-support issues, tax filing and community property issues, it should all be the same no matter if it’s a boy/girl, boy/boy, girl/girl couple or whatever!

    Some people say that gay couples are after “special privileges” but that’s a crock. It’s just the same responsibilities, burdens, rights, advantages as any other seriously committed (AKA married) couple has.

    So, that’s my two cents. Aloha!!!

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    I am no societal norm-addict, so same sex marriage is no issue for me. Who knows? Two people of the same sex might have more love for each other than the others.
    Whatever they want, nobody should care for as long as the two people involved are willing to face all the risks associated with their marriage.

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    I totally agree that there is no reason to legislate against same sex marriages as this really does not impact anyone but the couple involved. If it seems strange to some people, well there is a lot of ‘strange’ in this world, get over it.

    By not allowing same sex marriages the state puts a curb on the natural progression of a relationship which can cause a lot of unhappiness for the people concerned.

  5. I am totally pro same sex marriage. Why do people have to hate on it so much! If two people are in love they should be able to get married, who cares if they are a guy and guy or a girl and a girl!

  6. I totally agree with BigBob! Whether or not people of the same sex get married do not affect members of the general public, in any way at all. Who’s to say they’re wrong and others are right? No one has the right to judge.

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    Do not do unto others what you dont want to be done unto yourself. Nuff said!

  8. I have many gay friends and feel that they’re entitled to the same happiness as heterosexual people. The last couple of episodes of Brothers & Sisters focused on a gay wedding. It was the most touching thing I’ve ever seen!

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