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My pal Kailani at An Island Life hosts this great meme, Aloha Friday, based upon a very popular term used in Hawaii when island residents take it easy and look forward to the upcoming weekend – kind of like T.G.I.F. The meme involves no long posts, no deep soul searching revelations . . . just a little fun.

Each Friday, Kailani posts a simple question or topic of conversation. Visitors leave a comment on Kailani’s site and then post a question or short discussion topic on their own site. Participants visit each other’s sites and respond with a comment! Even if you do not post a question or topic on your site, you can still play by simply leaving a comment!

Here’s my question for this edition:

We’ve all had friends over the years with whom we somehow lost touch . . . perhaps there was a disagreement or misunderstanding, perhaps not.  Sometimes the events of our lives just pull us in new directions, away from folks with whom we have had wonderful, nurturing relationships.

This Christmas season, if you could and were to reach out to one such person, who would it be and why? 

My answer: When I was attending college in Southern California, I developed friendships with some of the other folks who lived in my apartment building.  We were like a little family for the period of time that we all lived there which, in retrospect, was, in the overall scope of things, extremely brief. 

In particular, I spent time with and felt close to a young woman named Janice who was originally from Rhode Island.  She was a hairdresser.  One day she just disappeared.  Her apartment was empty, her phone disconnected.  She never said good-bye to anyone and we never heard from her again.  The apartment manager was as shocked as the rest of us, and we tried to find her via family in Rhode Island, but given that she had a very common last name, had no luck.  Over the years, I have thought about her from time to time and wondered what happened, why she would leave so suddenly, and was she really who she said she was?  Having spent most of my life living in the same town and even the same house, and having many of the same friends that I became acquainted with in elementary school, the idea of such an abrupt and permanent departure, and severance of relationships, is not just foreign, but unthinkable to me.  I’ve always speculated that perhaps she had been in an abusive relationship and her former spouse or boyfriend found her, as in Anna Quindlen’s book, “Black and Blue.”  I’ll never know . . . 


12 Comments

  1. I had something similar happen with a fiancee, and never got closure as a result. I’d love to find out what happened, if I did something, etc., just so I can stop looking back on that chapter of my life.

    Also I had a friend in high school that I was very close with. I found out our senior year she was doing drugs and it totally shocked me. She’s actually the one that broke off the friendship, because I wouldn’t leave her alone about getting help, and I’ve always missed her.

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  2. I had a roommate in college who was also a friend of mine from high school. We had mostly good times, but a few bad times, and after college we lost touch. I think I would love to find her again, because I think we would still be really close! Last I knew her husband was in the service and they lived in Hawaii!

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  3. I also had a roommate in college who, were such close friends. She even threw me my baby shower, and invited all of our friends. I moved away, and when I got back to CA to visit, I’d stop and visit her over the years, but have since lost contact with her. I would love to find out what’s been going on in her life.

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  4. Well actually recently a childhood friend found me after searching for thirty years. We hit it off instantly on the phone. They were set to drive down for a visit then… silence. No further phone calls no nothing. They will not return my calls either. It really hurt.
    Folks can have expectations. I could not remember the times she wished I could recall.

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  5. It would have to be the group of girls that I hung around with in high school. They all still see each other and always invite me but it’s usually on the weekends when I work. It’s gotten to the point that I don’t feel like I’m a part of the group anymore and probably wouldn’t go even if I wasn’t working. I wish I could go back and do things differently.

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  6. Probably my friend Amy from high school. We were close up until about 4 years ago and then lost touch. I’ve tried to reach out a couple of times, but she hasn’t responded. I’d love to go back and do a few things differently, or at least get back in touch with her again and rekindle the friendship if possible.

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  9. Some 20 years ago, I had the best friend I’ve ever had. Due to changes in life styles and relationships, we lost that closeness.
    I still talk with her once in a while, but it’s just not the same. I wish I could find another friend like that.

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  10. Burbank Kango

    I too had a friend like this back in college, and I’ve always suspected some sort of mental illness as the cause. I’ve always felt hurt that she didn’t turn to me with whatever problem she had; but I now realize this is egocentric on my part.

  11. That’s in interesting story, Janie.

    I suppose if I could I would meet up with the man to whom I was engaged when I lived in Belfast. Sadly, I don’t even know if he’s still alive. We had a lot of fun together and shared some important times.

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