Ken and I have been married 27 years. I had been through a relationship with a man who was extremely jealous and would not wish that on my worst enemy. Jealousy has to be one of THE deadliest of sins! Ken and I both were married before (him several times, me only once). When he asked me to marry him I put him off for over a year. I had no wish to get into a relationship that took lawyers to get out of and his track record wasn’t the greatest. He kept on asking, though and I told him that the only condition I would marry him under was that he would commit to me that divorce, divorce threats or thoughts of divorce would not be used. I told him I had to be his last wife. He agreed, so we got married.

It hasn’t been all roses and light, but he kept his word as have I. We discuss and work through our issues and problems and having the “d” word off the plate has made our relationship work so much better!

And it’s funny but his first wife was my friend and she introduced us and encouraged us to date. I’ve never been jealous of her or of any other women in his life. He currently corresponds with a lady who was an elementary school friend. They share jokes and stories of grandkids. I don’t know how her husband feels about her corresponding with my husband, but their correspondence is fine with me.

Some people mistakenly think that being jealous of others showing your SO attention exhibits your love, but they are so wrong — it just exhibits your insecurities. Your love is exhibited in your trust in your partner to do what is right.

Ah — I see I’ve written a book — sorry about that! It’s a bad habit of mine. Thanks for listening to me ramble.