Sunday Stealing: A High School Meme

Sunday, March 15, 2009

This week’s meme comes from Mad Libs.

A High School Meme

My friend Beth, play­ing and singing on a Sun­day after­noon in the court­yard at Tokay High School (now Hutchins Street Square).

1. Did you date some­one from your school?

Sev­eral years after high school, the boy I was crazy about through­out those years finally returned my affec­tion. But I had moved on — geo­graph­i­cally, as well as emo­tion­ally, psy­cho­log­i­cally, spir­i­tu­ally, pro­fes­sion­ally, socially … he was too late. For so many rea­sons, I couldn’t allow myself to go back.

2. Did you marry some­one from your high school?

No.

3. Did you car pool to school?

No, we walked.

4. What kind of car did you have?

Ini­tially, I drove my par­ents’ 1963 Chevro­let Impala, but my father later bought a 1968 Mer­cury Cougar.  We named our cars, so the Chevy was “Betty Lou” and I drove “Xavier Cougar” in homage to Xavier Cougat.

5. What kind of car do you have now?

Toy­ota Camry XLE.

6. It is Fri­day night … where are you now?

With rare excep­tions, at home … relax­ing after a busy week.

7. It is Fri­day night … where were you then?

A foot­ball or bas­ket­ball game, or other school activ­ity. Oth­er­wise, at the pizza joint, a movie, someone’s house, Lodi Lake or one of the parks. Some­times we stayed up all night and went to the park to sing as the sun was com­ing up.

Tobie, Robin, and Linda (seated) singing at sun­rise atop the slide at Emer­son Park.

8. What kind of job did you have in high school?

After school, I orga­nized and cat­a­logued the high school’s music library. The sum­mer fol­low­ing grad­u­a­tion, I toiled at Straw Hat Pizza to earn enough money to buy a Fender guitar.

9. What kind of job do you do now?

I’m a lit­i­ga­tor. Employ­ment law, labor side. I love my job. I was born to object.

10. Were you a party ani­mal?

Yes, but in an inno­cent way.

11. Were you con­sid­ered a flirt?

No, I only had eyes for one boy. (He’s in the photo below.)

12. Were you in band, orches­tra, or choir?

A Cap­pella Choir and the Madri­gal Singers.

The 1973–74 Tokay High School Madri­gal Singers clown­ing around in the old auditorium.

13. Were you a nerd?

Sadly, I think so, but I was in good company!

Long, straight hair and embroi­dered over­alls were pop­u­lar in the early 1970’s. That’s me with my friends Tobie and Linda at a birth­day party in my par­ents’ garage.

14. Did you get sus­pended from school?

Never!

15. Can you sing the fight song?

We didn’t have a fight song, but I can still sing the alma mater.

16. Who was your favorite teacher?

Our beloved, greatly missed choir direc­tor, Wylie “Cosmo McMoon” Moffatt.

The late Wylie Mof­fatt lead­ing a 1973 rehearsal of the Tokay High School A Cap­pella Choir.

17. Where did you sit dur­ing lunch?

I hung out in the music build­ing or Press Room.

18. What was your school’s full name?

Tokay High School.

19. Where did you party the most?

My house or friends’ houses.

20. What was your school mas­cot?

The Tokay tiger.

21. Would you do it again?

Only if I could know every­thing that I know now, but didn’t know then.

22. Did you have fun at Prom?

Never went.  In those days, you had to have a date in order to go to the prom and the girls had to wait for the boys to ask them to go.  The boy I wanted to go with took a dif­fer­ent girl each year … and mer­ci­lessly rubbed my nose in it.  He con­sid­ered me too fat to be his date — for the prom or any­where else.  Iron­i­cally, he was any­thing but thin himself.

I won­der some­times if he feels badly about the way he treated me vis a vis my appear­ance, given that he has chil­dren of his own. The last time I saw him … well, I’ll just say that he was unrec­og­niz­able and Big­Bob thought he was one of my for­mer high school teach­ers. I’ll leave it at that.

I look at pho­tos of myself from that time period and real­ize that I didn’t look nearly as fat as I felt.  I was hor­ri­bly self-conscious not just because of the way he treated me, but because of the way he openly belit­tled me in front of other class­mates. We were cast in a musi­cal the­ater pro­duc­tion. My char­ac­ter was named “Rosie Pick­ens.” He repeat­edly called me “Slim Pick­ens” a la the late actor, laugh­ing at his own joke each and every time. I can still hear his voice, more than 35 years later, and it makes me feel the same way today as it did then. The mem­ory refuses to fade away with the pas­sage of time. Of course, today I would respond in a man­ner of which I was inca­pable back then.

Today, high school kids go to proms in groups, not nec­es­sar­ily with a spe­cific date.  Good for them!  It is a much health­ier way to inter­act with each other.

23. Do you still talk to the per­son you went to Prom with?

See above.

24. Are you plan­ning on going to your next reunion?

If my friends go, I will go, too, so long as it isn’t “black tie” and ridicu­lously expen­sive. We’ve been to a few reunions over the years and had a lot of fun. No spouses are allowed because we don’t want to have to intro­duce them to peo­ple and worry about them being bored.

My friend, Suzie, and I crashed the 1994 reunion … I heard the home­com­ing queen and her posse who orga­nized it were mad about that — so they started the rumor that Suzie was hor­ri­bly drunk. She wasn’t. All she drank was a Sprite!

When we arrived, din­ner was over and the danc­ing had already begun so the lights were low­ered. I opened the door and told Suzie, “We’re in the wrong ball room. There are a bunch of old peo­ple in this one!” She then pointed out numer­ous class­mates to me. When I asked her, “Do we look that old?” she pointed me in the direc­tion of the bar and I stayed there for quite awhile.

25. Do you still talk to peo­ple from school?

Yup, I still hang out with many of the same people.

26. What are/were your school’s col­ors?

Pur­ple and gold.


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1 Anonymous Sunday, March 15, 2009 at 1:09 pm

Ahhh I miss my first car… a 70’s buick sta­tion wagon with wood pan­elling, only one radio sta­tion came in: Clas­si­cal music, which we blasted dri­ving around town. So groovy!

2 Marianne Sunday, March 15, 2009 at 2:12 pm

I never had a car in high school. I got my first car after I moved to Los Ange­les at 19. It was a two tone brown honda civic. Every Sun­day I would get on Pacific Coast High­way and just drive. It wasn’t until I was almost to San Fran­cisco that I real­ized I needed to turn around and go back home. Noth­ing like hav­ing the win­dows down and music play­ing on the radio and no wor­ries. Some­times I wish those days were back.

3 Anonymous Monday, March 16, 2009 at 11:46 am

That was sad about prom. I think you should have gone with­out a date any­way and enjoyed your­self. I did, even with­out a date. I went with my date­less friends and we hud­dled together look­ing at the men whom we wanted to have asked us out but ended up ask­ing the pret­tier girls… Now, I see the man I was pin­ing for and yes…he looks old and fat…

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