24
Apr
2008
Posted by JHS as Friday's Feast

Appetizer
Name something you would categorize as weird.
Peanut butter and tuna sandwiches. My oldest son used to eat them every day. In fact, for awhile, I had to make them and pack them in his lunch. Thank God he outgrew that phase!
Soup
What color was the last piece of food you ate?
Brownish-gold. The color of caramel.
Salad
On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being highest, how much do you enjoy being alone?
15.
Main Course
Fill in the blank: I will _________ vote for ___________ in _______.
I will definitely not vote for Hilary Clinton in November 2008 (or ever).
Dessert
Describe your sleeping habits.
I don’t sleep a lot, but when I do, my television is always on. Always. All night long. I wake up, watch for a few minutes or a little while, and then go back to sleep. When I wake up on weekdays, I hear the television and am acclimated before I open my eyes. I can tell approximately what time it is by the newscaster’s voice. I also leave nightlights on in various locations around the house. I cannot tolerate ever being in a dark room.
I began leaving the television on all night while I was undergoing a series of surgeries for a detached retina. I was ordered to lie on my stomach for two and a half weeks following the first surgery. I could not get up except to use the bathroom, shower, and sit in a chair to eat. But even then, I had to keep my head down.
All I could do was lie there. I was bored out of my mind. So BigBob put the television on the floor by the bed, positioned so that I could keep my head at the right angle — with the left side of my face sort of buried in the pillow — and see the screen with my other eye. He also put the DVD player there, and brought me lots of movies. Since I couldn’t do anything all day, I wasn’t tired and got my days and nights all mixed up because I just napped sporadically.
My friends and colleagues were wonderful about calling and cheering me up. My good friend, Clint Ritchie, called me a lot and encouraged me with discussions about positive thinking and visualizing my eye completely healed.
BigBob had to take time off work to do everything around the house and, primarily, take care of the boys.
That surgery failed and I had another one soon after. That time, the surgeon inserted silicone oil into my eye and I had to sleep exclusively on my left side for nearly a year. The theory is that the oil is a dense, heavy substance. When you lie on the side opposite the site of the retinal tear, the oil pushes against the retina and helps it adhere. It did — the retina has not detached again.
Unfortunately, the oil destroys the eye’s lens. I had the most unbelievable cataract! When my eye was dilated, there was a huge white dot right in the center, making me look like a creature from a science fiction movie. Because the cataract was so bad, my left eye quit working and my brain adapted by directing my right eye to take over completely which meant that my eyes were not tracking together. I was very self-conscious about the fact that my left eye wandered. In fact, when I look at a picture of myself today, I can still detect that my eyes are not perfectly aligned / coordinated. They never will be. But that’s all right . . . I’m just thankful that I can see anything.
Another surgery to remove the oil and allow the vitreous humor to regenerate was followed by cataract surgery a few months later. But the oil also created a secondary cataract, so the last step, a few months after that, was a laser procedure to destroy the lens holder once they were sure that the lens was securely implanted.
Essentially, I never reverted to a normal sleep life following that period in my life. Small price to pay, though. I don’t complain.
What caused the retinal detachment? Stress. Six years spent litigating Conservatorship of Wendland, to be exact. When I say “I could never handle another case like that,” I mean it.

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17 Responses
mmog37
April 24th, 2008 at 10:16 pm
1i really enjoyed this feast…very interesting dessert
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Jenny
April 24th, 2008 at 10:25 pm
2my weird would be….peanut butter and cinnamon and jelly sandwich!! but it’s good.
bela
April 24th, 2008 at 10:37 pm
3i love peanut butter and i love tuna…but it really is weird if you combine them together. LOL.
my feast is now served too. hope you can check it out.
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Kity
April 25th, 2008 at 4:44 am
4Peanut butter and Tuna sandwiches. seen very delicious, But i must watch over heavy body, Almost every day, i sleep at midnight.
fathersez
April 25th, 2008 at 7:00 am
5Very sorry to read about the eye operations. Must have been and still seems to be quite an ordeal.
Just wondering, doesn’t sleeping with the TV on allow the possibility of unwanted sublimal messages?
Take care.
Gabriel
April 25th, 2008 at 9:57 am
6Great feast. Very interesting dessert.
My post is here. Happy feasting!
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bonggamom
April 25th, 2008 at 1:40 pm
7Peanut butter and tuna!!! OMG….. actually my dad would probably love that. We once caught him eating some fried fish and pound cake!
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April 25th, 2008 at 10:05 pm
8I also really enjoy my solitude (when i get a chance to enjoy it). Usually i get to be alone only when i am out for my daily stroll. i take the time to hear the birds, look at the trees grow, watch the little insects in the grass, do my little bit of communing with nature.
Love
April 26th, 2008 at 12:57 am
9And I adore french fried eggs, my girlfriend always makes me her in the mornings.
Laane
April 26th, 2008 at 7:18 am
10I’m so sorry to read about the surgeries.
My retina detaches about two to three times a year, but it heals. Each time i feel like getting a present.
Have you ever tried melatonin? Not the grocery stuff, but pure, from the pharmacy? 3mg, or maybe 5
It’s used by fpilots and such to get their daily rhytm on track.
Hugs
Welcome to party at my feast ::here::
Have a great weekend!
Teenage Love
April 27th, 2008 at 2:29 am
11I hope you eyes gets well soon. Bad eyes are so annoying.
My wierd food will be spiced butter milk(Indian food).
Thanks and get well soon.
jenny-up the hill
April 27th, 2008 at 6:30 am
12Yowsie on all the eye stuff! At least you don’t have to endure the tuna and pb anymore! lol!! Ack!
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bela
April 27th, 2008 at 9:24 am
13thanks for visiting my site.
really you find hot dog gorss? LOL. That’s the fastest thing to cook when we’re in a hurry. LOL.
Happy FF!
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unique stuff
April 27th, 2008 at 4:51 pm
14Sorry to hear about all your eye surgeries. Hope you get well soon!
Peanut butter and Tuna is a little weird as is peanut butter and pickles. But my weird food is plain potatoe chips on 2 slices of bread and butter.
Daisey
mrs surgery
April 29th, 2008 at 2:24 pm
15I didnt even know eye surgery can be so complicated. I fell so ashamed now, when I think how much I hated to world because it “happened to me”. And all I did was a rhinoplasty that didn’t go quite well.
I really wish you luck and hope you got over those heavy days.
filme
April 30th, 2008 at 2:25 am
16I like tuna, I love peanute butter, but togeather? NO way! lol Very strange indeed!
Eva White
May 5th, 2008 at 1:52 am
17I loved your salad. After a baby we all wait for the “ME” time alone.
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