Comments on: Monday Candle Moment: Knowing Our Own Worth

By: World Directory

World Directory — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 18:39:02 +0000

Nice post. yes i agree, worthiness in something we find inside ourselves and by connecting to our inner source. a lot of people feel this lack of worthiness and try to find proof on it outside themselves only to find that the proof they find there could dissolve at any moment, and so their feelings of unworthiness comes back again. good news though is that each and everyone really is worthy, it’s impossible not to be, it’s like saying that one flower is more worthy than another one. of course they are not. they are simply different. and so are we. thank you, many blessings.

By: Loving Annie

Loving Annie — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 22:13:14 +0000

Janie,
I think it is easier to SAY you could get along without him because you do not HAVE to….
This comes from a single person’s point of view who can totally identify with the angst your betrayed friend is going through.
It is very easy to theorize from a place of being wanted, being safe, being secure, being comofrtable.
Take the other end of the spectrum — years without being in a harmonious, supportive, loving relationship–and the feelings/responses of lower self-esteem are far different.
The guy is a complete asshole, and yes, you and I can see that she is MUCH better off without such an immoral, selfish, cruel pig.
But all she sees is that her whole vision of the future is changed, and he preferred someone else rather than her, and what she had to offer that she thought had value. And now he has shown her that in his eyes in has none.
And no new Prince Charming has immediately stepped up to the plate to repair the damage, which would make her see, feel and know the truth in what you have expressed as a loyal friend.

By: Mary

Mary — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 06:00:21 +0000

I think when you rely on someone else to make you happy, there in lies the problem. I have been there with romantic relationships and family/friend relationships. It sounds cliche, but until I stopped (OK I haven’t stopped completely, i still have a bit of a attention seeking/ external validation seeking streak in me… but I’m working on it) looking for another persons approval and learned to like me for who I am… I continued with bad and sometimes toxic relationships.

When we love someone so much that we put them on a pedestal… well, it’s kind of hard to see their flaws when they are so high above us. And we feel like we are the flawed ones because we are the ones kneeling before the ones we worship.

It’s so true, she is going to have to see her own value and not her value attached to another human being.

I’m with you, I’ve been married for 18 years and though I would be crushed if my husband traded me in for a younger model, I know I would survive.

By: Vic

Vic — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 03:12:50 +0000

Watching Dateline on TV it is always amazing to me how people tend to find always the wrong mate and do not learn from the pas.

By: Karen Lynch

Karen Lynch — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 03:07:08 +0000

Wow, makes me even more grateful that I am happily married!!

By: Bud Weiser

Bud Weiser — Tue, 17 Jul 2007 18:02:25 +0000

Great post! Some people never learn. If they thrive on drama, they’ll get plenty of it!

By: Riley

Riley — Tue, 17 Jul 2007 05:03:59 +0000

Poor friend. I vaguely remember those days, and am glad to be past them.

I liked your footnotes!